I’ve been through some pretty hard stuff. In fact, I had over two decades of increasingly difficult challenges that got pretty dark for me emotionally. I was able to get through it and come out of it for the better. . .
One. Day. At. A. Time.
Utilizing a good support system (family, friends, counselors, etc.). And applying 3 ESSENTIAL actions in my life.
(Please note that some circumstances require more than these actions, or any of the things I share on this site. Seek proper professional help if needed.)
1). Higher Power
Daily connection to God. I have a practice of studying my core religious text daily. I pray. I write about what I learn and feel and receive. This practice of connecting and reaching toward something higher than oneself helped (and helps) me feel hope and keep my sights on a higher perspective.
Through most of the adversity I faced, I wrote music. It served as a form of therapy and kept me healthy where other women in similar situations told me they were sick and diseased. These women also told me they had no creative outlet.
I relied heavily on my creativity to process emotion and I didn’t even realize it at the time. When things got insanely heavy and I went further into survival mode than I ever have before, I completely stopped writing and singing. Interestingly enough, that’s when I developed health problems. It was as if the emotions got clogged in my body and had nowhere to go. I was sick for many years before I regained most of my health. My biggest strides came after I reconnected to my creative self.
Don’t think you’re creative? Think again. Creativity is bringing something into existence that didn’t exist before. Everyone is creative in some capacity. And creativity to process emotions is something anyone can do. Grab a paper and scribble out your feelings. Sing your favorite songs. Dance in your living room. Cook a beautiful dish. Organize a closet. All of this is a form of creative expression that helps move through emotion in productive expressive ways.
This is a HUGE one! And the one that took me the longest to get. I’ve always taken care of myself by doing moderate exercise, but when I went into that deep survival mode, I stopped doing that too. I spent too much time in my head and “checked out” by doing both mindless and “important” things to keep busy. I didn’t want to feel my pain. These distractions disconnected me from my body. Our culture is SO good at this one. I’m going to write more about this! But I’ve learned that you have to connect with your body to reclaim a sense of stability in rocky times. Do something physical that gets your body moving. But also take time to connect with your body through stillness, like yin yoga or a meditation that focuses in on what your body feels like. I can’t stress enough the importance of connecting to your body, caring for your body when you’re stressed. You can’t heal a disease or wound you ignore. It’s the same with emotions. If you numb out your body, how will you heal?
So, baby step suggestions:
- Read a verse from your core religious text, or whatever elevates your mind to a higher vibration and journal about it.
- Scribble on a paper, paint, sing—do something creative and don’t worry about sharing it with anyone.
- Dance, meditate, hike, run, walk out in nature, stretch, yin yoga. . .move!
- And don’t forget to breathe.