1). Stand up Tall
They say psychology follows physiology. Straighten your spine, pull your shoulders back, feel the confidence rise within you. When we’re trying to hide we shrink, roll our shoulders forward and subconsciously protect our heart. We close off a little bit from the world. Opening your shoulders, opens your heart. Lifting your head, lifts your confidence.
2). Make Eye Contact and Smile at People
Making eye contact with others and smiling immediately communicates that you are confident, friendly and approachable. It has become a bit of a forgotten art in our culture. Practice; it gets easier.
3). Think of Others Instead of Yourself
I was giving a young woman some advice recently. She was complaining of a lack of friends. If you find yourself in this situation consider how much focus you give to yourself. If you are always worried about how you look, appear to others, sound, act and whether or not your getting “liked” or followed, etc. you are thinking only of yourself. Talking about yourself all the time with others also communicates insecurity. A confident and secure person doesn’t need to dominate the conversation.
When you start reaching out to people because you care, and when you start genuinely listening to others because you’re interested, you will stop thinking about yourself and automatically draw people to you. Listen to, compliment and do kind things for other people, but be genuine.
You can start doing these things immediately. As you practice them in tiny doses each day, you will find your confidence growing and expanding.